Growing up, I learned that the way to a woman's heart was an expensive dinner, roses and chocolates. I don't know why, perhaps it was Hollywood, perhaps it was my old fashioned parents. Having grown up, I've learned that this, like most pre-conceived notions about love, is a fallacy.
The romantic formula described above may have been a great concept long ago, but that was way back when it was an original idea. At this point in history, one man put some thought into his date, and was the first to take a woman to dinner, buy her flowers and chocolates.
Its funny that after so many generations, the concept of dinner and flowers is still the standard when it comes to romance. Which is quite strange when you think about it. I mean, in an age of abundance, dinner out just isn't special anymore. Its just what we do. We eat out with friends, with business associates, its a part of everyday living.
Flowers are the same, they are a common gift. We use them at funerals, to say good bye and welcome home, at births, birthdays and anniversaries. They are the gift you give when you can't be bothered thinking before you buy.
So what is romance then in today's age of abundance. To be honest, I'd argue it never has changed, to get it right, all we need to do is drop our pre-conceived ideas about it and start thinking.
Romance is thought. It is as simple as that. Real romance is getting into the head of your partner, working out the thing or things that will really appeal to them and then organizing for them to have it. It does not need to be expensive, or classy, or spic, or trendy, they are all preconceived ideas. All it has to be, is desirable for your date.
For example, a drive to the beach for fish and chips with a candle and a picnic rug could make your date way happier than a gourmet feast at an expensive restaurant. This assumes of course you have done your work and know she likes fish, driving and sand between her toes.
So next time you want to do something special for your partner. Talk to her (subtly often works better) about the things she likes. Then spend the time thinking and actioning the best way to give her the experiences she told you she'd enjoy. This approach is guaranteed to make her much happier than any formulated approach to romance.
The romantic formula described above may have been a great concept long ago, but that was way back when it was an original idea. At this point in history, one man put some thought into his date, and was the first to take a woman to dinner, buy her flowers and chocolates.
Its funny that after so many generations, the concept of dinner and flowers is still the standard when it comes to romance. Which is quite strange when you think about it. I mean, in an age of abundance, dinner out just isn't special anymore. Its just what we do. We eat out with friends, with business associates, its a part of everyday living.
Flowers are the same, they are a common gift. We use them at funerals, to say good bye and welcome home, at births, birthdays and anniversaries. They are the gift you give when you can't be bothered thinking before you buy.
So what is romance then in today's age of abundance. To be honest, I'd argue it never has changed, to get it right, all we need to do is drop our pre-conceived ideas about it and start thinking.
Romance is thought. It is as simple as that. Real romance is getting into the head of your partner, working out the thing or things that will really appeal to them and then organizing for them to have it. It does not need to be expensive, or classy, or spic, or trendy, they are all preconceived ideas. All it has to be, is desirable for your date.
For example, a drive to the beach for fish and chips with a candle and a picnic rug could make your date way happier than a gourmet feast at an expensive restaurant. This assumes of course you have done your work and know she likes fish, driving and sand between her toes.
So next time you want to do something special for your partner. Talk to her (subtly often works better) about the things she likes. Then spend the time thinking and actioning the best way to give her the experiences she told you she'd enjoy. This approach is guaranteed to make her much happier than any formulated approach to romance.
About the Author:
Jayde Johanssen loves writing about dating. She recently researched Christian singles site. Visit Dating Down Under if you would like more information on Catholic dating sites.. Unique version for reprint here: Romance: A Different Approach.
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