Your father was fortunate to grow up during his generation. He and your mom may have met in high school or college, before getting married after the courtship stage. It may have been very common in his time, but not so in our generation. After graduation, it's every man and woman for themselves, moving to different states or countries.
This is also a reason why dating isn't quite like it used to be as compared to the past. And in this present age, it is becoming less and less common for a man and a woman to get married and start having children at such a young age.
Many years ago, the status quo was for a man to marry his girlfriend by the time he graduated high school or college, oftentimes before reaching 20. Not so common in today's world. We (meaning both men and women) want to get through college and maybe grad school, head to parts unknown during our young years to explore and see the world. We also prefer to get a decent job before settling down, and may change jobs a few times before doing so.
We want choices. That's not to say that dear old mom and dad didn't have choices. But they didn't have the Internet, nor were they as inclined or able to travel the world, or even the country in search of Mr. or Ms. Perfect. So let's go back to the most important person in this article - you. You want to find a woman to settle down with, but don't quite know where to meet her, or how.
So maybe it's time for you to learn a bit about how dating works in today's generation. You need to know this because awkwardness shows, and while women find that sort of cute and endearing for a minute, they're ultimately looking for a guy who shows confidence.
On the other hand, what if you really are not confident at all? Fight whatever your mind is telling you that you can't do it - you CAN do it, as long as you put your mind to it. This is a skill that can improve with practice, and when we say practice, we mean dating women on a regular basis until you find Ms. Right.
Part of becoming confident is telling yourself that you are, and acting like it. Cockiness is a totally different thing all together, and something to avoid. Cockiness is totally different from confidence, and women like one of these two virtues and get turned off by the other - no prizes if you guess the right answer.
Maybe you're asking what makes today's dating scene so different? TV and movies tell us one thing - that dating is all about hanging out at the bar, drinking beers or martinis while flirting with women whose attire leaves little to the imagination. That's all well and good for entertainment, but that's not how it always is in the real world.
Dating isn't all about taking your special someone to the club and having a few drinks - there are so many other things you can do. If your date doesn't like going out at night, or doesn't dig the party scene like you do, you can take her to a sports event or to the local community center.
Dates take place at the corner cafe during lunch breaks and dates can take place while you're at the airport waiting to board a plane. Today's environment gives you so many opportunities to meet an interesting lady at such unexpected places like airports or at the office one floor above yours. Maybe even in another city all together!
And because women are much different today than in "days of old," she might enjoy a hockey game as a date, just as much as she'd enjoy dinner and a movie. You don't need to follow any specific rules aside from the common sense ones - today's dating scene is so much different from the way it was in your dad's time.
Just like a good Boy Scout, you need to be prepared to think of ideas on the fly. You need to be open to possibilities as they present themselves. You have to be prepared to think out of the box and step out of the familiar routine.
But what if your date is an epic failure? So what? As they keep on saying, practice makes perfect. You'll only find yourself on the losing end if you lose confidence and stop trying, so there's nothing to lose if you keep on practicing. Your next date could be the woman you meet at the gym, or in the elevator or at the bookstore. So be prepared.
This is also a reason why dating isn't quite like it used to be as compared to the past. And in this present age, it is becoming less and less common for a man and a woman to get married and start having children at such a young age.
Many years ago, the status quo was for a man to marry his girlfriend by the time he graduated high school or college, oftentimes before reaching 20. Not so common in today's world. We (meaning both men and women) want to get through college and maybe grad school, head to parts unknown during our young years to explore and see the world. We also prefer to get a decent job before settling down, and may change jobs a few times before doing so.
We want choices. That's not to say that dear old mom and dad didn't have choices. But they didn't have the Internet, nor were they as inclined or able to travel the world, or even the country in search of Mr. or Ms. Perfect. So let's go back to the most important person in this article - you. You want to find a woman to settle down with, but don't quite know where to meet her, or how.
So maybe it's time for you to learn a bit about how dating works in today's generation. You need to know this because awkwardness shows, and while women find that sort of cute and endearing for a minute, they're ultimately looking for a guy who shows confidence.
On the other hand, what if you really are not confident at all? Fight whatever your mind is telling you that you can't do it - you CAN do it, as long as you put your mind to it. This is a skill that can improve with practice, and when we say practice, we mean dating women on a regular basis until you find Ms. Right.
Part of becoming confident is telling yourself that you are, and acting like it. Cockiness is a totally different thing all together, and something to avoid. Cockiness is totally different from confidence, and women like one of these two virtues and get turned off by the other - no prizes if you guess the right answer.
Maybe you're asking what makes today's dating scene so different? TV and movies tell us one thing - that dating is all about hanging out at the bar, drinking beers or martinis while flirting with women whose attire leaves little to the imagination. That's all well and good for entertainment, but that's not how it always is in the real world.
Dating isn't all about taking your special someone to the club and having a few drinks - there are so many other things you can do. If your date doesn't like going out at night, or doesn't dig the party scene like you do, you can take her to a sports event or to the local community center.
Dates take place at the corner cafe during lunch breaks and dates can take place while you're at the airport waiting to board a plane. Today's environment gives you so many opportunities to meet an interesting lady at such unexpected places like airports or at the office one floor above yours. Maybe even in another city all together!
And because women are much different today than in "days of old," she might enjoy a hockey game as a date, just as much as she'd enjoy dinner and a movie. You don't need to follow any specific rules aside from the common sense ones - today's dating scene is so much different from the way it was in your dad's time.
Just like a good Boy Scout, you need to be prepared to think of ideas on the fly. You need to be open to possibilities as they present themselves. You have to be prepared to think out of the box and step out of the familiar routine.
But what if your date is an epic failure? So what? As they keep on saying, practice makes perfect. You'll only find yourself on the losing end if you lose confidence and stop trying, so there's nothing to lose if you keep on practicing. Your next date could be the woman you meet at the gym, or in the elevator or at the bookstore. So be prepared.
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