Monday, February 28, 2011

Why You Should Hesitate Before Marrying A Person

By Steven Crossley


Wanting a relationship to move to the next level is perfectly normal after a while. However, you may or may not be ready for something as big as marriage. It may seem right the next best thing for you and your partner but you have to be 100% sure while making a decision like this. Luckily, there are ways to find out.

Let them know! Your worth and value should be settled into your partner's head if you want to moveon to the next level. There wouldn't be much point otherwise. Try to say how both your lives would be sad without being together. Make them realize exactly how much they need you, not to promote jealousy or competition but to provoke a natural feeling in them to pull you closer and hence cause your relationship to develop to the next level.

It is best to not be "overly-available". This can lead to your partner taking you for granted which is something you don't want. Sometimes people are so "extremely in love" that they forget all about personal space which can be very bothersome for their partner. This common issue is best eliminated if you want a healthy relationship which can easily progress.

Being unavailable and spending time with friends will help. This way a person knows that you can be with others too and will want to be with you more. It also lets them know that you are social and makes them think of you as an interesting personality and someone who they can have a fun conversation with.

Don't be stupid enough to leave out your interests due to your partner. Making and keeping a separate personality is the most important thing since that is what you reflect on the outside. Your hobbies should be your own thing and a getaway too in case your relationship goes wrong for some reason.

These aren't Elizabethan times. Making your loved one everything may cause them to get bored of you and hence avoid marriage. You have to be a social butterfly along with being the beautiful wife-material or perfect husband. Drooling over your partner and abandoning everything else will not help.

Don't jump to conclusions. Think about why you want to marry your partner. It shouldn't be sudden or forced but in fact, the next step a mature relationship. You can not under any circumstances just make the biggest decision of your life because you got a five minute "love-attack".

It's okay to work it out just a bit but if you have to keep slaving away, there might be someone else meant for you. It's a big world out there and what do you know, if it doesn't work out with one person there might be another better soul mate out there for you.




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